I don’t like them. I never did. Despite all feats of badassery they do, I rarely like them. Because they seem to always be cut from one mold, always being physically strong, sometimes outshining the male characters.
But they often fail to be real characters that I can relate to. To me, the definition of strength isn’t in how they break the mold of society. It is how they are true to themselves. Regardless of what the world thinks of them. Or expects them to think and behave.
That’s why for female characters, I want them to have diverse personalities. I want them to be as different as possible, and I seek to do it. Because I want to show that a girl can be herself, rather than try to conform to what we see or read. Because those standards are impossible, and not all will fit into the mold.
And that to me, strength is all about being able to do things the way you want it. Even with backlash, you make your own choices regardless of how others perceive you. And when others remove that right from you you choose to stand up. Not let yourself be taken over.
To me, being strong is all about able to make a choice that is what we want, and never fitting into the expectations of society. And being able to weather the consequences of our choices, face our inner demons no matter how large or trivial it is.
It is about not letting others dismiss us, belittle us just because we don’t make a choice that is either admirable or normal. It is about being ourselves, never letting society or another person dominate us, control us.
That to me is real strength. But not a lot manage to do it. Show a female character who breaks this reality, that we can and should act in a way that satisfy ourselves, because we have a right to do so. Even if it is not normal for them to do so.
So, what do you think defines a strong female character. Leave them in the comments below.